Sex in pregnancy can be a sensitive topic for couples. Some women may notice an increase in libido – especially during the second trimester – while others experience discomfort or have questions like: Is it safe to have sex when pregnant? Why does sex suddenly feel painful?
Just as we explored the changes to your sex life after birth, this guest blog by YES Organic looks at why sex can feel uncomfortable during pregnancy, and shares gentle, natural ways to manage it.
Is It Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy?
In most cases, yes. If you are a low-risk pregnancy, sex is generally considered safe – unless you are advised not to by your GP or Midwife. Your baby is well protected by muscles in the uterus and amniotic fluid, so you and your partner can rest assured the baby won’t be harmed during intercourse.
Why Can Sex Feel Painful During Pregnancy?
There are a several reasons you might experience discomfort or pain during sex:
1. Hormonal Changes
Pregnancy hormones – particularly progesterone and oestrogen – can alter the vaginal moisture and thicken cervical mucus. This may lead to vaginal dryness or discomfort due to these hormonal changes, making intimacy hurt and less enjoyable. Using a natural vaginal moisturiser like YES® VM can help to alleviate dryness for up to 3 days, soothe dry tissues and help replenish any lost moisture.
2. Increased Blood Flow and Sensitivity
Heightened blood flow to the pelvic area during pregnancy can lead to greater sensitivity. For some women, this can cause discomfort or pain during penetration. Light bleeding after sex can be normal in this case, but it’s wise to wear a pad to keep an eye on any blood loss and inform your midwife to rule out other causes.
3. Physical Discomfort and Body Changes
As your baby grows, back pain, pelvic discomfort or round ligament pain can make finding the right sexual position during intimacy challenging. Try positions that reduce pressure – like lying on your side – or elevating your hips on a cushion for extra comfort.
4. Vaginal Infections or Conditions
Pregnancy can sometimes increase the risk of vaginal infections like thrush, bacterial vaginosis, or pelvic inflammatory disease, all of which can make having sex painful. If you are suffering from any irritation in the vagina or abdominal discomfort, then consult with your doctor for further checks and medication.
5. Emotional and Psychological Factors
Anxiety, body image changes or emotional stress during pregnancy can also impact a woman’s desire or ability to enjoy sex. It’s completely normal not to feel like yourself. Try to embrace the changes your body is going through – you’re growing a human, and that is beautiful! Feeling relaxed and comfortable can make a big difference to your experience.
How Lubricants Can Help with Painful Sex During Pregnancy
Using a lubricant is a simple and effective way to have sex more comfortable. Here’s how it helps:
1. Relieves Vaginal Dryness
A certified organic, water-based lubricant will add moisture and ease penetration, reducing discomfort caused by dryness, plus rehydrate any vaginal dryness.
2. Reducing Sensitivity and Friction
Lubricants minimise friction and help protect delicate vaginal tissues – especially helpful, when sensitivity is heightened.
3. Promoting Relaxation and Enjoyment
Using a lubricant can make having sex feel more enjoyable by making the process smoother and less stressful. Relaxation is key and knowing that the lubrication is helping reduce discomfort can allow both partners to focus on intimacy and emotional connection rather than pain.
4. Choosing a Natural and Pregnancy-Safe Lubricant
It’s important to choose a natural lubricant that supports the vaginas natural microbiome. Many commercial lubricants contain chemicals or synthetic ingredients that can irritate sensitive skin or be harmful during pregnancy. We recommend the YES range of lubricants that are certified organic, natural, and are matched to the pH of the vagina to support intimate health.
Tips for Navigating Painful Sex While Pregnant
1. Talk to Your Partner
Open communication with your partner is crucial. Discuss any discomfort you feel openly and explore different positions or ways to make having sex more comfortable. Experimenting with what feels best for you can help alleviate some of the physical challenges.
2. Take it Slow
Pregnancy can be a time of heightened sensitivity and changing needs. Take your time, experiment with different approaches and allow space for relaxation during intimacy.
3. Speak to Your Midwife or Doctor
Persistent pain or changes in discharge or bleeding should be discussed with your healthcare provider. In some cases, underlying health conditions may be contributing to painful sex and it’s important to rule these out or get guidance on how to manage them.
Painful sex during pregnancy is more common than many women realise – and it’s nothing to feel embarrassed about. Understanding the causes of discomfort and exploring gentle solutions like natural lubricants and vaginal moisturisers can help make intimacy more comfortable and enjoyable. Every pregnancy is unique – what works for one person may not work for another. Above all, take care of yourself and communicate openly with your partner to ensure a positive experience during this special time.
If you’re struggling with painful sex during pregnancy, don’t hesitate to explore natural options like Certified Organic Vaginal Moisturisers, Lubricants, and Feminine Washes from The YES YES Company. Made for people who want effective intimate products without the compromise of introducing harsh chemicals. www.yesyesyes.org
